vat en sit, adjectival phrase and noun phrase

Forms:
Also vat-’n-sit.
Origin:
AfrikaansShow more Afrikaans, ‘stay put’, vat take + en and + sit sit.
colloquial
In urban (especially township) English:
A. adjectival phrase Of a relationship between a man and a woman: common-law, unsolemnized, ‘live-in’; of a person: in such a relationship; of an attitude or opinion: favouring such a relationship.
1959 L. Longmore Dispossessed 32There inevitably comes the day when he fancies someone else and tries to get rid of his vat en sit woman.
1974 K.M.C. Motsisi in Drum 8 Mar. 29He will tell anybody..that vat en sit marriages have been blessed by the gods seeing as the Little Woman will never nag you or threaten to institute divorce proceedings.
1978 K.M.C. Motsisi in M. Mutloatse Casey & Co. 47Kid Conscience, the guy who decided to marry his ‘vat en sit’ girl after a donkey’s age.
1978 S. Mhlongo in Staffrider Vol.1 No.2, 10Marriage counsellors and lobola instalments are customs rotting in the garbage since the willing patriots of the new idealism became authoritative here, with the ‘vat en sit’ stance to the fore.
B. noun phrase An unsolemnized or common-law marriage; a marriage undertaken without attention to custom. See also to vat en sit (vat sense 1).
1977 J. Sikakane Window on Soweto 17They had developed a system, dubbed ‘vat en sit’, meaning practically ‘let’s marry on our own without conforming to family tradition and the church’.
1979 Voice 25 Mar. 7In South Africa these loose unions..are laconically referred to as ‘vat en sit’...People who are involved in Vat-en-sit seem to have less problems than us legally married ones.
1984 M. Dikobe in Staffrider Vol.6 No.1, 33In Doornfontein there were few who had married in any form. It was ‘vat en sit’.
1988 Pace June 4Townships in the Kwa-Zulu capital of Ulundi are known for four things: vat-en-sits, early marriages, alcoholism and kwaai wives.
Of a relationship between a man and a woman: common-law, unsolemnized, ‘live-in’; of a person: in such a relationship; of an attitude or opinion: favouring such a relationship.
An unsolemnized or common-law marriage; a marriage undertaken without attention to custom.

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